It finally happened…my baby girl started calling me mom. It caught me off guard in the moment, but I can’t say I’m really surprised. Skylar is at the stage of development where she is literally picking up on everything we say. So I’m pretty sure she learned to call me mom by listening to and copying her brother.
The same thing happened when Jaden was around Skylar’s age. One Saturday morning, he looked right at me and called me mom. I was caught off guard then too.
Hearing my little humans call me mom for the first time is always a shock because it suddenly makes them feel not so little anymore. Those moments remind me that my kids will not be little forever. They are growing up and like it or not, it’s happening fast! Each new milestone is a reminder to embrace every stage, no matter how prepared I am for it.
Luckily, I’m not yet exclusively mom. I still get to hear my baby girl call me mommy and if I’m honest, I would be okay if she called me mommy forever.
I can’t believe my baby girl is 18 months old! It seems like it was just yesterday that I wrote her a letter to express all the emotions I was feeling as we prepared to celebrate her first birthday. Yet, here we are half-way through year two with our little lady. She’s grown and changed so much over the last 6 months.
Here are a few photos from her one year celebration!
21 lbs 3 oz
24 lbs 12 oz
Skylar stopped nursing on her own at 11 months old. Around this time, my supply started to decline and I was struggling to pump enough breastmilk. To make up the difference, we started supplementing with formula. When were together, I continued to nurse her, but she was losing interest. One night, I tried to nurse her before bed and she looked me right in the eye and shook her head no! I couldn’t believe it!
Was this really happening? In that moment, my heart sank. I knew our breastfeeding journey was over. She never nursed again.
Luckily, Skylar has continued to eat well. Over the past couple of months, she has developed some favorite foods including applesauce, yogurt (or “yo-go” according to her), mac and cheese, strawberries, bananas, and oatmeal.
Skylar is a great sleeper (*knocks on wood*). Her bedtime typically falls between 6:45 and 8:00 pm, depending on our evening activities. Some nights she even tells us when she’s ready for bed with a simple, “Night night.” She sleeps through the night and if it wasn’t for her brother being noisy in the morning, she would wake up much later than the rest of us. We typically let her sleep-in on weekends since we are early risers during the week.
One thing that always makes us laugh is Skylar’s resistance to sleeping in the car. I could probably count on both hands the number of times she’s actually fallen asleep in the car in her entire life! She rarely succumbs to a evening drive. She will stay awake and make the most noise until you get her back home and to her bed. It’s hilarious because her brother will almost always fall asleep if we hop in the car anytime after 2:00 pm.
Skylar turned one right before the COVID-19 pandemic hit the United States. When our state shutdown, we spent 2.5 months working from home with our kids. Even though that time came with many challenges, we experienced some of the best moments with our baby girl!
We watched her go from standing and toddling to full blown walking and running in the span of a few months! She started using a spoon and feeding herself without any assistance (and now gets upset if you try to help her), and added more words to her vocabulary than I can count.
It’s also been so fun watching her personality develop. This little lady is FEISTY! Yet, she’s so compassionate, loving, and empathetic. When anyone is in distress (mostly her brother) she’s right there, ready to defend or offer a consoling hug. I can’t wait to see how there characteristics develop as she continues to grow.
Pretend play is so fun to watch too. I especially love when Skylar grabs whatever vehicle is in site and walks around the house yelling, “veee, veee, veeee!” It’s the cutest! She loves playing with balls, riding her balance bike, playing outside, coloring, reading books and dancing!
Check out her dance moves!
The last thing I’ll mention here is the bond between Skylar and her brother. They are two peas in a pod. Most evenings are filled laughter, squeals, and occasionally screaming and tears as they continue to learn to play together. Sometimes they spur each other on in mischief, but most of the time they entertain each other well.
As I mentioned earlier, Skylar can be pretty feisty. She likes things her way and on her terms, which can be frustrating at times. We’re learning to give her more freedom to do more age appropriate things on her own. We’ve found that offering her a few choices often helps. For instance, choosing between two options during snack time, letting her pick out part of her outfit for the day or deciding hair accessories she will wear. At bedtime, she has free reign over which bedtime stories we read.
Each day, I see her learning more and more and I’m reminded how fast the days, months, and years go by. The last 18 months have been nothing short of amazing with our baby girl.
Skylar is such a joy! There is never a dull moment with my little sunshine!
Happy birthday, baby girl! I can’t believe you are a year old today! Time please slow down!
I’ve thought about this letter and what I would say to you for a while now. The truth is, it’s hard to put into words everything I’m feeling. Before you were born, the idea of having a girl scared me. Honestly, the thought of raising a girl revealed some of my deepest insecurities. I didn’t think I was capable of raising you to be strong and confident when I myself often feel as if I don’t measure up. One thing the Lord is teaching me is that He will blesses you with the exact opportunity you need to change your heart and shape your character. I believe the Lord gave me you to help shift my perspective. As I raise you, I know that I will have to trust the Lord.
The last 12 months have been nothing short of amazing. You are my sunshine! You bring so much joy and light to our family. There are so many things I love about being your mom. I love taking care of you. I love seeing your smile when you wake up in the morning. I love holding you as you fall asleep at night. I love how much you love your brother. I love your laugh. You are playful and curious. You are sweet and loving. You are also very independent. Your father and I could see that very early on. I can’t wait to see how your character grows and develops over time and how God uses all the wonderful things he’s placed in you.
This moment is bittersweet. I so excited to be celebrating your first birthday. At the same time, I’m a little sad because this day is a reminder that you are growing up. And growing up means you will gradually become less dependent on me. While I feel some way about that, it’s obviously a good thing. I want you to grow into your own. I want you to discover your purpose. I want you to experience life to the fullest.
This verse hangs in your bedroom: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
I can’t wait to see how the Lord’s plans unfold for you. I am looking forward to walking alongside you as you discover God’s plan for your life. I will always be your biggest cheerleader. I will listen to you and do my best to understand your perspective. I’m sure there there will be times when we don’t see eye to eye, but I hope you know that I love you no matter what. You are so beautiful, inside and out. I will do everything I can to help you believe that for yourself.
Today we celebrate you baby girl! I can’t wait to see what the years ahead hold for you. I love you so much!
My baby girl is 9 months old! A lot has happened since her last update. Not only has Skylar grown physically, but she has also hit some significant developmental milestones.
Skylar is a happy baby, but she can be a little feisty. It’s her way or the highway and she’s quick to swing her arms and/or legs in objection. Our girl is full of affection; giving kisses is one of her favorite things. She’s curious and loves to play and explore. Like her brother, she is such a goof ball. They laugh together all the time.
Skylar’s Stats at 9 Months (she grew almost 2 inches and gained 3 pounds)
Height – 29 inches
Weight – 19 lbs 3 oz
In the last update, I mentioned that we started introducing solids. At that point we were giving puréed baby food, but that phase quickly passed. By month 7, Skylar wanted to eat what everyone else was eating so we moved more towards baby lead weaning. Now, Skylar basically eats what we eat, with slight modification as needed. So far, we haven’t found anything that she won’t eat. We are still going strong with breastfeeding and I continue to pump 3 times/day at work to keep up with her. Skylar continues to take bottles at daycare, but she is also eating breakfast, lunch, and snacks at school.
Over the last three months, Skylar’s sleep has been a little challenging, but we are still consistent with bedtime between 6:30 and 7:00 pm. During months 7 and 8, there were nights where baby girl would wake up once and other nights where she was up every 2-3 hours! Those nights, it literally felt like stepping back into the newborn phase.
At her 9 month appointment, the pediatrician mentioned sleep training (letting her cry it out). I’ve always been indifferent when it comes to cry it out. It’s hard to justify the extended crying (or screaming) and lack of rest for everyone over a 5-10 minute peaceful nursing session and going back to sleep. But, I understand where the doctor was coming from. It’s better to get her sleeping now versus waiting and having more trouble in the future.
At that appointment, we learned Skylar had an ear infection so we decided that we would try sleep training after her ear was cleared up. Lucky for us, Skylar miraculously starting sleeping through the night on her own. We had a 5 day stretch, with limited intervention on our part. The only thing we changed was putting her a security blanket and a teddy bear in the crib with her. It’s so cute to see her snuggling the little blanket at night. I’m hopeful that more restful nights are ahead of us.
The best moment for me was on a random Monday. I walked into Skylar’s classroom at daycare and got her car seat out of the closet. As I was getting the seat ready, Skylar crawled right to me! Like for real crawled, no army crawl or scooting along. It was so surreal to see because just that weekend she was still working on her coordination. This time she had it down. When we got home I put her on the floor and off she went. I shared a video of that moment on my Instagram page. Check it out here.
We also took the kids to their first basketball game! I thought Skylar would be bothered by the noise in the stadium, but she had a great time. We even snagged a picture with the team mascot!
Other than sleep, some other challenges include dealing with separation anxiety and balancing the attention I give both kids. I can’t walk away for Skylar for a few seconds without her crying for me. Now that she’s crawling, she follows me wherever I go. There’s no place I can “hide” from her lol.
As an infant, Skylar still demands a lot of attention, but her brother does as well. Sometimes it’s hard to given equal attention to both, but as children they don’t understand that. They just know they need mom. The one good thing about Skylar going to bed early is having more time alone with Jaden, but if I’m honest, it’s easy to let other things distract me from sharing quality time with him. That’s something I need to work on.
It’s crazy to think that the next update I will post will be for Skylar’s First Birthday! I’m excited for all that I will experience with my baby girl in the next 3 months, but I’m also reminded how fast time flies.
Skylar is 6 months old! It’s crazy to think we are half way through her first year of life.
Skylar’s Stats at 6 Months
Height – 27 1/4 inches
Weight – 16 lbs 3 oz
The last few weeks have been full of developmental milestones, reminding me how fast our babies grow up! 😢
Since her last update…
Skylar has mastered rolling over in both directions. When she’s laying on the floor, she is quick to roll to her belly. She has even started to push up and move around/army crawl.
She has made progress in sitting up on her own. She’s not yet able to sit completely unsupported, but she can sit by herself for more than a few seconds at a time, unless she gets distracted, mostly by her feet, which she loves! We can often catch her with her toes in her mouth if she’s laying down on the floor or in the middle of a diaper change.
Skylar also loves bath time! Now that she can sit up in the tub, she loves to kick and splash in the water.
Skylar is also teething! Her two bottom teeth are starting to come in. Just this week, we noticed the corner of one toothpoking through the gum line. The other is not far behind it.
I am still breastfeeding and it continues to go well. I nurse on demand, but the number of times I am nursing during the day has started to decline.
Skylar is more efficient these days, but easily distracted. I often have to be in a quiet space, free of other people and noise for her to stay focused on nursing. Since she is in daycare full time, she still gets bottles 3 times a day and I am still pumping 3 times a day at work.
Within the last month, we started introducing solids. It’s been a fun experience for all of us. To date we have tried: oatmeal, bananas, carrots, apples, pears, mashed potatoes, and yogurt. Skylar has loved it all! She enjoys sitting in her high chair or at the table with us when we’re eating and we’re looking forward to her being able to try more foods in the coming months.
Skylar is an early to bed, early to rise girl. Most days she goes to bed between 6:00 and 6:30 pm and wakes up around 6:00 am.
While she’s not waking up as often, Skylar is still not sleeping through the night. More recently, she’s been waking up in the early morning hours. That varies from day to day, but typically between 1:00 and 3:00 am. The early morning wake ups are hard. I usually find it difficult to get back to sleep or get restful sleep after a 3:00 am wake up. I am starting to think about sleep training, but I’m not sure when we will start because our family will be making a big transition in the next few weeks. Who knows, she may start sleeping through the night on her own. *fingers crossed*
My favorite part of the day is picking Skylar up from daycare. As soon as she sees me walk into her classroom, her face lights up and she gives me the biggest smile. I also love how her personality is starting to shine through even more. She loves to laugh; it’s so contagious. She’s very easy going, but also very silly, much like her brother was at this age.
Speaking of big brother…I’ve said it before, but I can already tell Skylar has a lot of love for him. He can make her smile like no one else. It’s been cool to see him taking more interest in playing with or being around her, even though he often doesn’t want to share his toys very long.
At her 6 month check up, Skylar was diagnosed with a double ear infection. She didn’t seem to bothered by the infection, but the biggest challenge has been dealing with the diarrhea/loose stool caused by the antibiotic she was prescribed. The result, lots and lots of laundry!
Luckily, the ear infection cleared up and her bowel movements are slowly getting back to normal.
Another challenge we are dealing with is separation anxiety. It’s not terrible, but we have noticed it creeping in. There have been moments where Skylar won’t go to anyone else except me, including her dad and grandparents. Anytime I’m not near her, she watches my every move. If she sees me and then I step away, she will start crying for me. I’ll admit, I love that she wants me, but I also want her to be comfortable with others. Hopefully this phase passes quickly!